S3E1 - Lisa in SLC

In this episode, Lisa (The Poly Wife) shares her experiences in Salt Lake City, where she explores both dating and new BDSM practices. She recounts meeting a potential partner for a spontaneous and playful encounter, which led to unexpected complexities in his open relationship. Lisa also describes attending a hypno-kink workshop, which helped her expand her tolerance for BDSM pain play. She met an experienced "service top" who guided her through an intense, consensual scene involving staples, corset play, and impact techniques. The hosts discuss the importance of trust, boundary negotiation, and aftercare in kink, highlighting how communication and clear protocols create a safe environment for exploration.

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🔥SHOW NOTES🔥

[00:00:00] - Introduction to the episode and disclaimer for mature audiences.

[00:02:00] - Lisa shares her Salt Lake City adventures, including a fun date and a spontaneous intimate session in a car.

[00:04:00] - Lisa talks about attending a hypno kink workshop and her desire to expand her BDSM tolerance.

[00:06:00] - Lisa's experience with a service top and a BDSM scene involving surgical staples, focusing on consent and safety.

[00:08:00] - Insights into pain and pleasure dynamics during the scene, including discussions on boundaries and the negotiation process.

[00:10:00] - Lisa reflects on the psychological effects of pain and the importance of trust in creating a fulfilling experience.

[00:12:00] - The aftermath of the scene, with Lisa’s thoughts on aftercare and the emotional impact of the experience.

[00:15:00] - Closing reflections on the growth in her kink journey and how she plans to continue exploring her limits.

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🔥RESOURCES AND LINKS MENTIONED🔥

• The Playful Podcast Website: www.theplayfulpodcast.com – For after-hours content, workshops, and community access.

• The Power Exchange Events: Mentioned as events where one of the guest speakers is an expert in electricity-based play.

• Hypno Kink Workshop: A workshop focused on incorporating hypnosis into BDSM play.

Transcript

Jess the Playful Domme: 0:12

Welcome to the playful Dom, the Poly Wife and the Virgin Podcast, where we share our most intimate stories, experiences, and details of our love lives, our intimacy lives, our play lives, and giving you the opportunity to gaze in and get a glimpse of what could be possible in your life as well. As we share our stories, our adventures, we weave in tips. tricks and techniques to help build your confidence, boost your courage and give you the opportunity to ask for what you want in your life. Welcome to the podcast. Oh, and just a couple of quick thoughts before we get started. One, we are just everyday people. We are not professionals, licensed therapists, anything like that. This is for edutainment purposes only. This is not medical advice or legal advice, financial advice, none of the like that. Listen at your own discretion. And this is for mature audiences. We're going into deep subjects and sharing deeply about intimacy and all the things about that. So just notice who you're around and let's go. Hello, listeners. Welcome to the Playful Dom, the Polly wife and the virgin podcast, where we come together to share about our juicy, fun, exciting, challenging adventures deep into. Lady and all the things can keep fun, juicy and intimate. Today we're here to have a quick little check in with Lisa who has an amazing short story to share with us. Lisa, take it away.

Lisa the Poly Wife: 1:55

So I have been, um, in Salt Lake City this week and I, I've been actively dating, looking for a partner cause I'm going to be out here regularly. So I've had a couple of really great dates. The first one was awesome. Met a guy, connected, and, um, we, uh, had lunch, had a nice little kiss, and then he got out of work early. He's like, hey, I got out of work early. You want to meet and kiss some more? I was like, yeah, absolutely. So we kissed and we had a, well, little play session in the back of his car. It's so much fun. I have really never experienced that before. And, um, he went home. His wife was all on board and everything. But when she found out that we played in the car, she got upset because that was their special place. So apparently they had quite a long conversation about it and he has, um, they've closed their relationship. So they're no longer playing. And that's a cop. That's actually an interesting topic for something for another day, but. Coming off of that experience, I went to a hypno kink, um, workshop to meet other people in the community. And that was absolutely fascinating, incorporating hypnosis into play. Um, was really fascinating. And so I got hypnotized because I have wanted to increase my BDSM tolerance and be able to play a little bit harder than I have in the past. And the girlfriends that I've got all orgasm when they are in a BDSM scene. And I was like, I don't know how they do it. I don't know how that's possible. So I want to be more, you know, open to the, and free to experience orgasm while I'm experiencing pain as well. And so I got hypnotized and induced to be, experience more pain. And one of the men that was there is an instructor at, at the power exchange events in Florida and around the country. And he is an expert in electricity, which is something that I'm interested in. Um, And, uh, so he asked if I would be open to playing with him, and I thought, you know what, why not? I want to experience this, and he's an experienced, um, uh, top, and he loves to be a service top, and so I went ahead and had a date with him last night, and we ended up, um, doing some pretty heavy BDSM, I, he, did a surgical staple corset on my tits, which was absolutely beautiful. And then, um, used, um, another state kind of stapler and, uh, stapled my chest a little bit. And I was shocked at, he knew exactly where to place the staples so that they wouldn't hurt. And then he hit a spot that did hurt. And, um, he says, yeah, that's a nerve bundle right there. So that's what that feels like. And then he stayed away from the nerve bundles around that area. And the whole point of it was, Was a to get me in subspace, which she did very successfully and be to leave a bruise because I'm such a light bottom that I cannot be hit heavy enough to bruise. But I really like feeling my bruises. So we spent two hours. in the negotiation and safety portion of the scene. We negotiated for longer than we actually played. And it was a really fascinating process. It was, it was an inclusive style of BDSM play, which means Only what we discuss is allowed in play. So we went through what instruments we were going to use, staples, um, we included floggers, uh, different impact instruments that were, um, I included, but would be, I could, you know, I could take away consent, but I couldn't add consent. So I couldn't say, Oh, let's add rope to the scene. That wouldn't be okay because everything we discussed, we had to discuss ahead of time. So we discussed what we were going to do. Then we discussed, um, uh, what the, um, The sorts of things that I liked and didn't like, what my experience was, and then we discussed, um, what aftercare would look like and how he follows up two and three days, two and three days later, so that the sub drop either isn't as severe or that he can address it as the top, he's responsible for me until I am 100 percent back to normal. And that was very different than anything I'd experienced before. It was, and then we talked about whether or not we would include sex in the scene or what kind of sex would be included. Um, I, and whether or not we would fluid bond based on testings that we had done. And so it was so clinical and this is very interesting because the only people I have played with are people that I have been interested in having a relationship with. And he's not a person that I want a relationship, uh, boyfriend kind of experience with at all. He just is a service top. And in that way, it's a little bit clinical, but oh my God, he sent me soaring. So we did these staples. He left me with bite marks. I've got a couple of tender areas that I can press. They just send me right back into that space of headiness because I, the, the bite mark and that, that, that, that pressing and giving myself that pain sends endorphins into my body. And so it's a way to sort of relive what I, what we did and it continued to enjoy it. So, you know, all day long, I'm just going to be sitting. at my desk pressing this bruise. And he was incredibly safe. He used, he used gloves. We talked about what the potential risks were with everything that we were doing, um, and all how we were going to handle emergencies. And then he told me what his medical issues were and I told him what my medical issues were. It was the most thorough and enlightening experience. And, and I was talking to, uh, my girlfriend Molly about it and I had experienced staples once before, not staples, a staple, and it hurts so much. I made the guy stop and, um, What Molly was saying to me was that a lot of what fear a lot of what pain is, is fear, so that if you alleviate the fear, there is a you experience the pain at a completely different level. And with two hours of talking about all the details. I have to say that when it came to what we were doing, I had 100 percent trust. Listen, I may. middle aged white woman driving an hour away from where I am living here in Salt Lake City to a strange man's home to have him, quote unquote, hurt me. And I had 100 percent trust in the entire process. It, that is what I love about this lifestyle so much is that the communication is so clear and we, we vet each other. and create this open and honest communication that is amazing. And it, it, I had complete trust. So when he started doing it, he says, this, the, the surgical staples are not going to hurt very much. And so when he did, I was like, Oh, you're right. That didn't hurt at all. And so he did it. And then he corseted my tits together. So they were, so he would sort of just pull on the ribbon a little bit between the corset to sort of in. So towards to give me a little bit of a rush and then he'd let leave it alone and he might kiss my neck or hug me or distract me in some way and then pull on the ribbons a little and then go to the staples on my on the left side above my left tip. And so he started just by sort of pressing them. Because the goal was to leave a bruise, and he pressed them, and then the presses got a little bit harder, and then he started tapping them, that area, and it released pain, but not in a way that made me shrink away from him or feel afraid. And then he was able to really thump my And every time he did it, it was just peels of laughter coming out of me. And, uh, His name is, uh, I, I don't, I don't think he'd have a problem with me, but his name is Sir Giggles on FET. And, uh, he does a lot of very extreme, uh, BDSM scenes, but he is, he was absolutely, and he told me he's, he's really careful about reading what he calls reading the skin. So he looks for reactions and he understands edging. So he increased pain level a little bit by a little bit by a little bit. And then even as part of his aftercare, like hair pulling was another thing that we incorporated into our play. And he says, I incorporate hair pulling in the aftercare as well, so that you're, while I'm edging you up during the scene, during aftercare, I'm edging you down so that you don't feel such a sudden sub drop. After the play. It was absolutely fascinating. And this is a guy that I'm wasn't. I really had no interest in building a sort of intimate relationship with, but I would see him over and over and over again as a service top. It was absolutely a fantastic experience. And I feel like he's the right top to help me advance my BDSM experience. I was clear that I like thud impact, not stingy impact. And whenever it got a little bit stingy, I was like, oh, oh, that doesn't work. And so we just, and and I, he kept going from one area to another area and revisiting and he really understood. I was like, oh, in what I've experienced is somebody put staples in somebody and then you go on to the next thing and then you go on to the next thing. But he really. revisited all of these places where he had created some impact or, um, pain structure. And we, I probably, we probably spent 45 minutes just sort of playing with the different areas and jiggling the, um, the, um, uh, ribbons on my, on my breasts. And then he used a magic wand on my pussy to sort of elevate me. Oh my gosh. It was. Absolutely fantastic. And he has set the bar. Now, I'm sure that maybe a lot of service tops are, um, high product, high protocol like this, but I have only been, um, playing with people who are not experienced and um, and are doing it sort of as foreplay for sex, whereas this was the event just in and of itself. And the sex could either be incorporated into the play or not, and in our case it wasn't, but it was, I never knew that this That the staples could last for 20 minutes and still be interesting. It was really, it was fantastic. It was really fascinating. I just, I had such a great time and he pulled, he got me down from my, he pulled me up out of my subspace so that I was safe enough to drive the hour home at, you know, 11 o'clock at night on snowy roads. I felt completely comfortable and sober and, and sane. And, um, and now this morning I've got my little souvenirs that I could keep poking and reminding me of, you know, how much I enjoyed last night. It was great. It was really fun. It was really, really fun. It was awesome.

Jess the Playful Domme: 14:29

Wow. I think you might need to be renamed as Lisa the Kinky Pollywife.

Ella the Virgin: 14:35

You're not wrong.

Jess the Playful Domme: 14:36

That, that was, that would probably be much more accurate. Um, and it's so fun for you. I love that you go out and explore and, you know, that willingness and, and also for our listeners. Um, you know, this is a, a thing she's been building on for three years. So this isn't something that she just like jumped right into doing. This is something that's been going on since 2019. So almost four years, three and a half years. Um, so, and I, I just, I really appreciate. Lisa's level of, um, you know, the more that she's in the conversation, the more she understands and has contrast, like, you know, about the high protocol, about the safety, um, measures, about what's consented and, you know, and, and everything like that. And this is, Again, like building a playground of creating a safe space for Lisa to be able to let go. And, and it makes it more fun for Sir Giggles. And you know, what a great, sweet, dumb name to have Sir Giggles. Like that's just really sweet. And while I can't. Imagine for myself like being stapled. Um, you know, we, we have, like to Lisa's point, we have this, this fear connected to, Oh my gosh, this thing was going to be so painful or how could you do it or, you know, whatever. And there's something about the, the, the, the, the, the buildup into the space and being open and willing to try and experience something new and, and especially. When you trust the person you're with. Um, so I say kudos to you. Thanks for sharing. Like that's, this is definitely a, a juicy thing. And you know, Lisa's 60 years old, you know, in fact, like, you know, she's here to live life and new experiences. And she's been like that for years, but like, you know, I, if anything, it almost feels like it ties into life, you know, it can be a metaphor that like the more that we're open and willing to try new things, the more that we. Know how to set up and play well with people that we trust, you know, what else is there in life to, um, experience that it goes beyond just the kink space, but, you know, like, clearly, this is not the average, uh, housewife, tuesday night, you know.

Lisa the Poly Wife: 16:57

Here, what I would say is that. I was, when I first started on this journey, it was like, if there is pain involved, I'm out. That's a hard no for me. There's, I will, and I said at the time, I will never be a heavy player, but I have, even with just, um, something as light as, coconut rope, which is called torture rope, because it's very itchy and scratchy. I was like, Oh, you know what? I, I actually am enjoying that discomfort a little bit. And I can say thing about it is not having somebody who will immediately stop. If there's a problem, it's that they're in it for, this is what I didn't understand when I first started is that he is a service top. He is a Dom and he is a sadist. But what I've learned in the four years is that the sub is the person who's actually in control of the scene in terms of creating the boundaries and saying, this is what my limit is. This is what I can tolerate. This is what I can do. And if you have a responsible, dumb, uh, sub, Dom or Dom A, um, that person is paying attention and won't take you over your limit, but push that boundary just enough to test it. And I never, I, I got to yellow Um, we use the stoplight indicators to tell, I never got to red. There was never a point where I was like, nope, that's too much. And at one point we did do one thing, um, which is a little more extreme. And I'll put that on the, we'll talk about that on our late night, our after dark series. Um, and the result of that was. So painful for me that we had to stop play for probably 10 minutes so that I could recover and get back into the place and into a play head. And he was patient and caring and loving and 100 percent about my experience. And I asked him, I was like, I have had trouble in the past. even just receiving oral, right? Something very vanilla and interesting, you know, boring compared to this. And I said, I always feel like I have to reciprocate. And he says, yeah, that's not true. Right. I said, part of my problem with saying that I want to experience oral from you is feeling obligated to make sure that you have your Oral as well. He's like, yeah, that's, I'm getting my fun watching you get into your subspace. That is what is my expectation. If I can get you into subspace, I don't care how long it lasts 10 minutes or an hour and a half. That's all I want. So it doesn't matter how long the scene lasts. It's all about you. And I feel like with a person, there are plenty of guys who claim that they're doms. All they want to be is bossy in bed and not have the woman give any feedback. Like, I just want to. Throw your whatever, excuse me. Yeah. Do whatever I want. I just want to do whatever I want. They think that's what a Dom is. And I have a whole new respect for what that role is for a person and for me. And so this has really been the. The best journey. And I think I would say that this was 100 percent the best kink experience I've had in my four years.

Jess the Playful Domme: 20:34

Yay. Yay. And to keep on going from there. Thank you so much for this quickie update and sharing with us this salacious story. We just had to record it. Um, thank you all so much for listening and for being open minded and, and being curious and seeing what else in the world, where can you just. Test yourself a little bit, you know, Lisa's decided she's going to, you know, build up her tolerance in kink space and her experiences and she's already off to a great start. It's only January. So gosh only knows where she's going to be at the end of the year. Oh my goodness. So thank you all so much for listening. We look forward to catching up with you on our next episode. Bye for now.

Lisa the Poly Wife: 21:16

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